A loan

There is a passage in Genesis 31 which speaks of a father who when was told that his son had died "... tore his clothes, dressed in mourning and wept his son's death for a long time. All his sons and daughters tried to console him, but he refused the solace and said: In mourning for my son I will go down to the grave. "This is what many of us did, including myself, at first. As time goes by and as we groow in faith we conclude that this is not the way.Life is, above all, a an individual loan. But when we have children it is difficult to think individually. That's because when we are pregnant our connection is complete and we are, in fact, for some time, two in one. Perhaps because of that even after the birth of this beloved being that we kindly nurture, cultivate and educate with all our love and dedication, we continue thinking that we can not exist without him.The other day I read statements that caught my attention. The model Gisele Bundchen said to a magazine that "Children are our most valuable asset, we need to take care of them." Another was from the actress Gwyneth Paltrow: "Our job is to prepare children for the world."Well different the two visions. The first affirmative exposes the common failure that is to think that our children are ours. They are indeed valuable but are not assets and are not ours. The second is more realistic which is to prepare children for the world. I think that every mother intimately mix things but the truth is that the children we had are not ours.There is a passage in the book of the Old Testament, in Samuel 20, that tells King David's reaction when he learned of the death of his son: "Then David arose from the ground, washed, anointed himself and changed his clothes. Then came home, told his servants to serve meal and ate." It is an attitude of reaction, get up and live. That's what we need to do!After all it was only a loan from God, as the writer José Saramago says on the poem Children are for  the World "... child is a being who loaned us for a crash course in how to love someone besides ourselves, changing our worst faults to give the best examples and learn to be brave. That's right! Being a parent is the greatest act of courage that someone may have, because expose yourself to all sorts of pain, mainly from uncertainty to be acting correctly and the fear of losing something beloved. Losing? How? It is not ours, they remember? It was only a loan! "